Who else is glad to say buh-bye to the garbage fire year that was 2017? Everyone? Cool. Not that 2017 didn’t have its highlights, such as seeing two friends get married and seeing Kesha again (!!!), but still. Sometimes it’s best to close the chapter and call it done.
If you go just three posts back you’ll see my mantra for last year, Treat Myself With Kindness. Sometimes I was great at it, sometimes it turned into too much “treat myself” (Donna and Tom would be proud) and sometimes I forgot it altogether. Whoops. So this year I’m going to try to be more mindful of that while also working on my new mantra for this year which is (drumroll please)…
Too often I’ve found myself angry, bitter and unpleasant from little ridiculous things in my life and from bigger world-impacting issues as well (I’m looking at you GOP). I’ve let all of this shape and mould how I interact with others and myself, and not in a good way.
It’s so easy to give in to the anger, the bitterness and the frustration. But I don’t like who I am when I do. I instantly feel bad about the situation, even more when I hurt someone else because of it. That’s not the kind of legacy I want to leave.
So, how am I planning on choosing love?
Take a step back when situations get heated to clear my head.
Most of the things I regret doing when I’m angry are things that, had I taken a step back and given myself time to breathe, I wouldn’t have done in the first place. I need to practice checking in with myself when situations start getting heated to make sure I’m in a good place. Whether it’s debates about basic human rights or a game of Catan with family (…sorry Shannon), remembering to take a step back and breathe through it will help.
Remember why something is important to me.
There are certain situations that I find it very hard to remain calm. Like mentioned above, when it comes to debating basic human rights (you know, like being able to survive?) I get heated quickly. And most of the people who play the “devil’s advocate” jump on that as a reason why I should lose the argument (and in real life). Remembering why these issues are important to me and taking that step back to gather my wits will help.
Think of how I want myself and others to feel after interacting with me.
As I mentioned above I don’t want my legacy to be one of interpersonal conflict. Nor do I want to look back on my life and wish I had been kinder to myself. I want people to feel happy and uplifted after interacting with me; I want myself to feel happy and uplifted living my life.